10 Reasons to Love your Twenties

There are the classic reasons we all know…friends, bar nights, cocktails, happy hours, parties, you’re not tied down, fewer expenses, traveling, meeting new people… But those aren’t the ones I want to focus on.

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We’ve all heard people say enjoy college because it’s the best four years of your life. Then you reach your early twenties and you escape from the warm and fuzzy boundaries of your university and discover that being an adult is great and terrible all at the same time. In your mid-twenties you land your first job, become a boring working professional, your drunken late nights at the bar turn into dinner and drinks with friends and couples. Your weekend plans change from getting drunk to going to a wedding shower…Here’s why you should enjoy these years:

One: You can pull off a dress like this:

Photo Courtesy of Nastygal.com

Photo Courtesy of Nastygal.com

(Okay, maybe we can’t all pull off a dress like the model in the picture, but we’re young enough to try.)

Two: Because when something goes wrong, you fuck up, or you’re sad, your best friends are always there for you…with wine.

Three: Because every time you feel like you’ve fallen off the bandwagon, you’ve really just discovered another side of yourself.  It may not be a side you like, but maybe it will teach you to be the kind of person you want to be.

Four:  Because who you’re going to be is up to you: a writer, a comedian, a nerd, a foodie, a best friend, a shower-singer, a loner, an extrovert, a dancer, a beer expert, a wine connoisseur…the choice is yours.

Five: Because you learn how to turn your mistakes and regrets into funny anecdotes.  Your failures expand your wisdom, and you realize that although you thought you knew everything, you really knew squat.

Six:  Because although you find yourself needing more sleep like an elderly person, you enjoy it because you actually spent time decorating your bedroom and choosing your bedsheets.

Seven:  Because every time you surprise yourself with the ability to compartmentalize and improve yourself, you feel mature, confident, and proud.

Eight:  Because you get the opportunity to meet some pretty special people.  Because you learn that when you find someone awesome, whether a friend or a romantic interest, you never let them go.  And when they leave despite your efforts, you learn how to move on.

Nine: Because when you’re single and you cautiously open your Facebook knowing that you’re bound to see another friend engaged, and you feel a hint of sadness when you see the guy you dated is engaged to the girl he dated right after you, you learn to build a thick skin. That thick skin helps you weed out the bad experiences in search of the ones that will give you nothing but happiness.

And last but not least…

Ten: Although dating may suck, you find yourself gradually more able to turn rejection into a reason to keep persevering.  In your twenties you learn that although the light at the end of the tunnel might seem far away, it can be pretty fucking euphoric to know it’s still there.

So why should we love our twenties?

Because each day we get to uncover just a sliver more of the unknown. We learn how to turn sadness into strength, turn tears into laughter…and turn water into whiskey.  So enjoy the ride.

Love,

J. Molly

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Why you Should Love this Generation

What’s better than clubbing? Quiet clubbing.  It’s clubbing made more personalized.

I know what you’re thinking.  Isn’t “clubbing” synonymous with music.  How can you have quiet clubbing?  Well, quiet clubbing does involve music.  But it’s music you can control.  Everyone is issued headphones when you enter the club.  With a click of a button you can turn your music off and the whole club will look like it’s filled with a bunch of people jamming out to silence.

There are three stations offering different music, and each person controls which station they listen to.  Just like you can swipe a person away on Tinder, you can swipe your controls to a different station when you don’t like the song your current station is playing.

It’s like imagine dating three people at one time and being able to go back and forth between them whenever you get sick of one. Just flick.  You’ve moved on to bigger and better.  And flick.  Hey, you’re back.

So here we are standing with our friends, jamming out to completely different songs.  Depending on what station you’re listening to, your headphones have a little color beam on top of each ear.  There’s green, red, or blue.  So if you really want to know if you’re dancing to the same song as your friends, you can see if your colors are the same.  But there are some songs out there that have the power to turn the whole club one color.  Last night that song was a Backstreet Boys song. Instantly the whole club was singing the song.  The DJ spinning the music even stopped that song for a second so that the whole club could hear everyone was singing the same song.

Is this not the ultimate way to be anti-social and social at the same time?  Gone are the days where you have to suffer through a song you hate at the club.  Gone are the days when you have to be dancing to the same song when you’re dancing with your friends.  Gone are the days when you have to go outside the club in order to give your eardrums a much needed break.  Gone are the days when you can’t talk inside the club.

With silent clubbing you can go from Rihanna to Journey to Kanye with the flick of a button.  You can go from dancing your butt off to loud music through your headphones, take them off and continue chatting with your friend without relocating.  The best part is when you’re jamming out to your favorite song, you look to your friend and she gives you that knowing eye like oh my gosh, isn’t this song great? And then you see each other’s color and realize you’re hip-hopping to a different song.  But who cares, it’s all the same ass shake.

If I still have to explain why this generation is better…you clearly just have to experience it.

Love,

J. Molly

This article was inspired by my amazing Quiet Events experience at Monroe in SF.

At Monroe in SF

At Monroe in SF