How to Make the RIGHT Kind of Resolutions

img_0543Does anyone else feel like it was 2004 just yesterday? Hopefully while you were soaking up the rays on your holiday vacation, you were also pondering the new year and what you can do to make it better!  The numbers might be moving forward but one thing that unfortunately often stays the same is the number of resolutions that go unsuccessful each year.  People have an innate tendency to see the future positively and to look at things as being easier to do at a later time in the future, like when we say we’ll exercise tomorrow…you know the drill! But the best thing we can realize now, is that the best time to do something is…NOW! not tomorrow!  Everyone’s guilty of procrastinating at one time or another, but there are things we can do to prevent our procrastination.

So what’s the secret to making resolutions that will actually stick?  No, you don’t have to shy away from the ones you really want, instead you need to make your resolutions small enough to be manageable.

Break it Down

Think of all your goals in terms of small pieces.  Break down your goals.  Don’t get stuck fearing the immensity.

Get There in Steps

Set specific tasks to reach each one.  The more specific you are, the better.

This year when asked what my resolutions were, I realized that I didn’t take time to think of anything specific beforehand so I did so after.  Every day of the year I take note of the skills I need to acquire, the ones I want to perfect, and the ones I’m working on every day.

In college I had one year where I was on the best sleeping schedule.  I went to bed at 9:30-10pm and woke up between 5-6am.  It was my most productive year, and now…I want it back!  To start, I’ll be less extreme.  Going to bed at 11pm and waking up at 7am is where I’ll start.

Stay Organized: Make Lists

As the work week begins make a general list of the tasks you want to accomplish each day and a timeline for doing so.  While breaking the days into hour increments will normally suffice, never shy away from getting even more specific.  Time is of the essence.

Envision your Goal Long Term, but Focus on it in the Short Term

There’s a fine line between overwhelming yourself with the future and seeing it clearly enough to stay focused on your goals long term.  When you set a goal, try to envision not only successfully completing the goal but making it last.  Reaching goals takes active attention in the short term, and a clear vision for the long term.

Know Going into it that you WILL Falter…but don’t Turn it into a Complete Fail

Ever heard of the “What the Hell Effect?”  It has been noted that when people cheat or do something they say they won’t, (i.e. they eat a bag of chips when they know they told themselves they wouldn’t), people will often cheat even more because they have the mindset, “Well, I already cheated so I might as well keep going…but I’ll start fresh tomorrow.”

SCREW the “What the Hell Effect!”  Even if you falter a bit, don’t make it worse! Recognize it, and stop it in its tracks.

Every year should be a year in which you learn, grow, change, improve yourself, love fiercely, live passionately, and laugh frequently.

Happy 2017!

Love,
Molly

 

 

 

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The New Kind of Detox That Has Everybody Talking

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As soon as we hear the word, “detox,” people immediately imagine a fridge filled with vegetable juices, a hungry belly, and maybe even a sauna.  Apparently, processed foods aren’t the only toxins people are discarding.

There is a new trend in town, and that is the “digital detox.”

Unlike the juice detox, a digital detox doesn’t limit your food consumption. Instead, it limits your access to your computers, smartphones, and iPads.  The first question you may ask yourself is, “Why would anyone do this?” Our technological advances are part of what keeps our civilization moving forward.  Our phones make us easily accessible; they act as our GPS, they record our favorite moments via pictures and videos, they give us access to the internet on the run, all of which are benefits we enjoy.  So why refrain?

Studies have shown that refraining from technology can help our posture, allow us to make deeper friendships, improve our memory, help us get more efficient sleep, and give us new and refreshing perspectives.

While many of you might currently be formulating your New Year’s resolutions, perhaps a temporary reduction of technology use should be added to the list.  Each person is unique and will feel this feat differently.  Some individual testers have described the experience as “life-changing.”  While I wouldn’t set the bar that high, at the very least, you may discover something new about yourself or the world!  Why not take this step in the new year!

Don’t let your phones be a conversation killer.  Like chocolate cake, technology is incredible in moderation.

Love,
Molly

 

 

 

 

Make your New Years Goals a Reality not a Future Plan

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Alright, so you’re probably all thinking, your healthy eating and healthy lifestyle habits will start January 1st.  Which means your next thought is how many pieces of cake can I shove in my mouth in the final few hours of 2015? Or perhaps you’ll have one more cigarette before you throw the box all away.

But one of the most valuable lessons I’ve learned over the years is that if you can’t see yourself making the change in that moment, then you probably won’t stick with it in the future.  It’s easy to make plans and resolutions, and I do think that on some level it’s a good idea because it forces you to keep working towards bettering yourself, but don’t forget to ask yourself, why not right now?! Why don’t I end 2015 the way I want to start 2016?

Here’s to making all your dreams a reality this year! Happy New Year!

Love,

J. Molly

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Bring in the New Year with 4 Awesome Style Resolutions

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So far it’s been a great holiday break.  Lots of lounging at bars, drinking with friends, dining out, and spending time with family.

The New Year is a time to make resolutions we’ll never keep. I like to focus mine on style resolutions that are equal parts wild, fun, and bold.

Resolution #1: Rock the thigh high boots whenever possible.

Resolution #2: Don’t underestimate the power of a sweater dress.  They’re warm, comfy, stylish, and cute.  What more could you want?

Resolution #3: Rock the red lipstick despite not being able to pull it off quite as well as Taylor Swift or Nicole Kidman.  There’s nothing wrong with trying!

Resolution #4: Bring in the New Year with some awesome chunky ring bling!

Love,

J. Molly